"We have learned that there are stages of community, and authentic community requires commitment – something we preach to each tenant who moves in"

"Community" is more than a buzzword at WillowBridge; it is a value we frequently mention and deeply value. For many, the word may bring to mind fellowship, shared meals, laughter, and unity. At its best, community feels natural and joyful. However, true community is not always easy. It requires more than shared moments; it demands commitment—even when it's uncomfortable.

At WillowBridge, we witness both the beauty and challenges of doing life together. Recently, a conflict arose between two tenants during one of our weekly community dinners. What began as a time of connection ended with tension, and a few people left the table. It was uncomfortable for everyone. But, as I reflected on what happened, I was encouraged. These individuals have known each other for some time, yet this was the first time they've displayed conflict. This was not a sign of failure but of growth and true community emerging!

We have learned that there are stages of community, and authentic community requires commitment – something we preach to each tenant who moves in. In the beginning stages, everything seems easy and perfect. People are polite, and relationships are shallow but peaceful. Eventually, though, differences emerge, and personalities clash. Many are tempted to give up and abandon community at this stage. But, conflict is not the end of community; it is a doorway to something deeper. When we face conflict together, with humility, honesty, and grace, we move beyond mere acquaintanceship into true community – where open, vulnerable conversations are welcomed, and every individual is respected.

I was encouraged to see these tenants moving past just being acquaintances and into deeper stages of community. They ultimately forgave one another, and their relationship has been mended.

Conflict management is a skill that takes practice. At WillowBridge, our young adults get the opportunity to practice it in a safe space with encouragement and guidance. By teaching commitment to community, a culture of humility and grace is being built, and our young adults are learning to see conflict as an opportunity to grow together.

The commitment to work through difficulty is vital, and it reflects the example that Christ's love has set for us. The Apostle Paul writes in Colossians 3:13, "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." True community is built when we bear with each other – when we choose to stay, listen, and grow, even when it would be easier to ignore the conflict and abandon the relationship. Let us be people who embrace the challenges of community, trusting that God uses even our differences to draw us closer to Him and to each other.